Counselling Mindfulness Self care

An unexpectant beginning…

Tranquil If you allow yourself to be open minded you may begin to hear the teaching and learn from it….

I ensure that my clients know about self -care and are able to refuel themselves with the elements that make them feel good, refreshed, confident to be able to continue on with their day/week/month/year.  Self-care can incorporate something you do daily, weekly, monthly, but it needs to offer you what you need.  Most of us can feel when we need that top up, and it is rarely filled by others.  Self-care is just that ‘self’  anything you receive from others is a bonus and a nice addition to your own refuelling.

I had recognised that my self-care needs were needing a top up. My exercise which is my main contributor to self-care was not fulfilling all that was required.  My body was giving me feedback on being physically tired, drained and focus was being lost.  When a yoga retreat was mentioned to me by a friend, I asked a question of cost and when I heard how reasonable it was I immediately said yes.  This was the added self-care component I was requiring.

Yoga        Time out from my surroundings, from my ‘norm’, forced to really cocoon myself into me and be open minded to what yoga could offer.  I have dabbled in yoga over the years, but have always been drawn to gym and pilates for the cardio burst of fitness and strengthening. I can now say that I was recharged, refuelled and have a new appreciation for yoga.  I was physically challenged and more so mentally.  There were moments during the 1.5hr yoga sessions (which there were 3 of over the retreat) that my mind was questioning ‘how long is there to go?’ ‘When will this finish?”. I heard myself, acknowledged the slight resistance to the yoga and responded with ‘I have nowhere else to be at this time’, and with a breath and refocus on the yoga pose the resistance to the session ending, ceased.  I was able to be content with where I was and how I was feeling.  The resistance was also to do with the physical challenge, it hurt at times and when I feel pain I tend to give up.  As I went with the intent of being open minded I worked through the physical pain and used the power of the breath to get through (it also helped listening to the soothing voice of Elisa our teacher).

With little to no expectations of the weekend, except that it was time away, I was able to really be at all times. My mindfulness practice heightened as I was able to take moment by moment in and slow all senses, allowing that recharge to happen.  So for me I had an unexpectant beginning, I wasn’t searching for anything yet I found.  I wasn’t seeking clarity yet I received it.  I was able to stay open minded to the weekend with no judgement, no expectations, and received teachings that I can now move on with in way of learning.

I do have my reality check on, and I know that life isn’t all yoga retreats, as I came home and unpacked my bags and started the chores of washing.  Yet I had a smile on my face, knowing that I listened to myself that month or so ago and heard that the self-care element needed something more than my usual gym/pilates.  I offered it the yoga retreat to which I have been taught, I have learnt and have therefore grown.  I missed my family in that time, but I also know they have a better me, and that is because I refuelled, recharged and took charge of my self-care.

DolphinsIf you can take time to listen to yourself, that little voice that can sometimes be ignored and recognise when you need to introduce something more or different, please do so.  It may be going to a yoga class, a walk, reading a book, sitting with a magazine, a night away….whatever it is that you can offer yourself go now and write it down or book it in.  Your body and mind will thank you for it, but most of all you will thank yourself for it.  Self-care isn’t about waiting on someone else to do something for you…it’s you doing something for you.

May you be well and happy.

Elisa Payne is from Om-Buddhi Yoga and offers weekly classes, workshops and retreats throughout the year.

Eryka is a counsellor and mindfulness facilitator working with individuals and couples.



Counselling Mindfulness

Mindful Moments


Daily reminders of being mindful


Last year an idea came to me about sharing Mindful Moments.  Moments where we are fully aware of the present, being in the now – truly living it.  It has taken some time for it to come to fruition, in that I have sat on it for almost a year.  Without questioning too much as to why start it now, I am a believer that things happen for a reason, last year it wasn’t the right time.  Now, is the perfect time for me, as the daily mindful moments is also a therapeutic tool for me.  I am putting to practice what I counsel and facilitate.

As a counsellor, I offer strategies, tasks, ‘homework’ to my clients and I am aware of how difficult it can be to introduce a new thing, change a habit, or try something different to create new.  It takes discipline and effort.  Mindfulness in theory is easy, as it is about being present, living in the moment each moment, having awareness, observing without judgement.  Yet, when put into practice that effort and discipline is vital, and we realise that focussing on one thing without the mind wandering is abit more difficult than first thought.

One of my aims (besides setting myself the activity for self care) is to help others further understand and integrate mindfulness into their day. To notice by reading my mindful moments, it doesn’t have to be a 20minute meditation, it really can start with being aware of your self, physically, emotionally, socially. Mindfulness allows us to become more intune with our bodies, therefore having more control of how we feel and how we want to feel.

Each day, I will post my Mindful Moment on the Looking Forward Mindfully Facebook page and encourage you to share yours as well.  I hope you embrace your moments and start to notice them as they are happening.  Before you realise you will be utilising mindfulness a lot more than one moment.  Last week I observed and noticed that within myself there were some unpleasantness (in thoughts, feelings, mind states) , I listened to it without judgement and took charge of how I wanted to be feeling.  As I write this and have posted Day 3 Mindful moment, I am observing and noticing far more pleasant…..Why?  I put effort and discipline into being mindful.

Take care